The narcissist is someone who is in love with an idealized self-image. The narcissist can be very delicate and can get incredibly fierce and cruel during an argument. If you focus on anything else, it is taken as a direct attack.
It is difficult to understand whether they really mean to hurt others or not. Here are some tactics you can use to stop an argument with a narcissist
1. Do not argue about what is right or what is wrong. As narcissists will never admit their fault, it is worthless to argue with them about right or wrong. They always try to blame you for every negative emotion they are feeling because they already portray their own image as faultless.
2. Try to empathize with their feelings. If you are with a narcissist, try to have a lot of empathy for them. Even the most caring person face difficulty in having empathy for that person who insults them again and again, but there is one way to sooth a narcissist rage is to empathize with their feelings. Avoid using ‘I’ and try to use ‘we’ in your argument. When you use ‘I’ in any argument, narcissist takes it as you dared to defend yourself. To stop the argument from escalating, you can remind them that it will be better off for everyone to stop.
3. Do not expect any apology from them. There is no single chance of the narcissist admitting their fault or any wrongdoing. They will never apologize because they are not comfortable with the idea that they started an argument, so it’s best to move on.
4. Do not take the bait yourself. If you take the bait, it means you are reacting to something that they intended you to do. It is important not to rise to the bait and get cross.
For most people, breaking things off with a narcissist and being free from them is the only option. But there may be some circumstances where narcissists are unavoidable, then try these tactics with them and avoid arguments